Learning from the uncomfortable

As a teen librarian, I was hesitant about developing and facilitating my first virtual program during the summer of 2020. The weight of current events made it difficult for me as I found myself unmotivated to promote my regular programs. In many of the outreach programs I facilitate, transparency is a common theme. Being transparent allows me to build authentic trust and form healthy relationships with the teens I serve. So, I knew if I facilitated a program that did not address current events, I would be doing my participants, the community and myself a disservice. As a teen librarian, my ultimate goal is to ensure that my department is viewed as a learning center for young adults. If we’re honest with ourselves, we learn the most when we’re uncomfortable and while having tough but important conversations.

Navigating how to have a conversation about race with teens was tricky. I knew a structured program would feel forced and disingenuous. While we’re all getting used to virtual meetings, an open dialogue might not be productive because the online space is a difficult place to exhibit vulnerability. Establishing the trust necessary to have an open discussion about race takes time and a lot of trial and error. 

I began developing my program knowing that for the first session engagement would mostly likely be minimal and so I shifted my measurement of success. To me, this program would be successful if even only one participant felt safe enough to share his or her experiences. I also invited panelists to be a part of the program. Collaborating with people who are dedicated to social change helped me build confidence while providing important suggestions as I developed the program. Ultimately, the program was a success. The panelists offered great insight, and the program participants were actively engaged.

As we navigate the necessary conversations about race and other issues in our community, we need to shift our focus. This is especially true when having these conversations with youth. We shouldn’t shy away from tough conversations because, ultimately, they foster healthy dialogue and true growth. They allow us to connect and build trust with the people who matter most to us. As we collaborate with trusted community members and organizations, we do our part to build a stronger community.

Today, I encourage you to step out of your comfort zone and do something to spark real change in your conversation. Whether it’s attending one of Charlotte Mecklenburg Library’s Black Lives Matter programs or having a tough conversation of your own, just know taking one step today can positively impact your community tomorrow.

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This blog was written by Cearra Harris at the West Boulevard Library branch of Charlotte Mecklenburg Library.